High School Sexting a Problem

Aiken O’Halloran and Foley
Experienced State and Federal Criminal Defense Attorneys
Ft Myers 239-334-8890
The Cape 239-984-4994
Se habla espanol
Charlotte 941-639-6009
Sarasota 941-366-3506

Parents, things have changed since you were in high school. With the explosion of smart phones and social media applications our children have become “sexualized”. Young girls and young boys are sending sexually explicit videos and pics to each other. What parents might not realize is that this is a crime. Do not assume that because your daughter is a good girl and “would never do something like that” it cannot happen. The sexually explicit photos are in fact “child pornography”. Sadly, some young girls, starved for attention, routinely send boys photos, and you would not believe how explicit they are. Boys will be boys and they will not only look at them, they will save them on their phone or computer and then sometimes share them with other guys.

As a sex crime lawyer, I see this every day. Teenage girls sometimes exchange pics with guys on the Internet. This can lead to something much worse. The Internet is a dangerous place and the guy your daughter thinks is her age, may not be. The pics can lead to them “hooking up” and you may wake up some day to find that your 13 or 14 year old daughter is having sex with an adult man. The other great danger for parents is the “hookup” sites for casual sex like “Tinder”. High School and college kids use this site for random sex encounters. I know you are saying, “not my daughter”, but you would be surprised how rampant it really is.

As a parent of a teenage boy, or college student the situation is just as bad. The reality is that the teenage girls lie about their age. Some even have phony identification. Some underage girls go to adult bars and clubs with phony identification. If your son has sex with a 14 or 15 year old fully mature looking girl, he may find himself arrested for sexual battery, and face becoming a registered sex offender for life, not to mention jail. Teenage girls are mentally and often physically, much more mature than teenage boys. With the makeup and suggestive clothing, a 15 year old girl can look, and act 20. They will come on to guys five and ten years their senior. For a young man, the sexual attraction may overcome common sense. Young men think with the wrong head. Make sure your son confirms age, and is really sure, before engaging in sex with any young girl or woman.

Pay close attention to what your kids do on the Internet. They may think it is an invasion of their privacy, but as a parent, keeping them out of trouble or keeping them from getting arrested is more important. Sit down and talk about this to your kids.

Getting arrested for sexual battery with a minor will turn your son’s life upside down. Getting convicted for a sex crime like child pornography will destroy his life. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. If your son or daughter finds themselves in trouble, getting good representation is critical and getting it quickly even more critical

ABOUT ATTORNEY PETER D. AIKEN

The “Me Too” nightmare

Aiken O’Halloran and Foley
Experienced State and Federal Criminal Defense Attorneys
Ft Myers 239-334-8890
The Cape 239-984-4994
Se habla espanol
Charlotte 941-639-6009
Sarasota 941-366-3506

Ever since the hearings two weeks ago on the confirmation of the Supreme Court Justice, there has been an explosion of people coming forward, mostly women, claiming they were sexually abused years and years ago.

These allegations are from former employees, family members, former dates, former classmates, stepdaughters, and old girlfriends. How do you defend against someone claiming you did something years ago? The problem becomes a nightmare when the person accusing you claims that they were underage when they claim it happened. It is one thing to defend against something that they say happened last month and quite another to defend against something ten years ago.
For some crimes there is a statute of limitations that gives the State a certain number of years to file the charge. For some sexual battery crimes, particularly when a minor was involved there may be no limit as to how long the State can wait. We have been defending date rape cases for decades.

Sometimes, women do not want to take responsibility for their own actions.

They may say “I was drunk” and you should not have taken advantage of me. They may say that “we were stoned” or “under the influence” at it is your fault. I have found that many times, the accusation is simply false or both people are at fault. Over the years, I have found that many times, it is a stepdaughter simply making a false claim to get rid of her mother’s new partner.

News flash……teenage girls sometimes are drama queens and masters of manipulation. If they falsely accuse their mom’s new man, DCF is called, the police show up, the man gets arrested and gets kicked out and the real dad comes back into their life and to their rescue. They become the focus of everyone’s attention. Sadly many female prosecutors in a knee jerk sympathy reaction believe the false accusation and file the charges.

Being falsely accused of a sex crime can ruin your life. If you even get a hint you are under investigation, you need to lawyer up as soon as possible. Never make any kind of statement with seeking counsel. You have the right to remain silent, and you need to. Do not try and talk your way out of the problem, you will only did yourself a hole. The police will generally have the accuser make a controlled “recorded” call to get more evidence in the terms of some type of admission. If you are under investigation…Call a good criminal defense lawyer now.

ABOUT ATTORNEY PETER D. AIKEN